24/7 D/s relationships

this is crosscopied from i group i was reading about 24/7 relationships. i think ours is a kind of 24/7 relationship Mistress because W/we do spend a lot of time together. You might be interested in reading about what other people think.

yours,
spirit

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bill wrote:I am curious as to how many members both Dominant and submissive/slavelive or have lived in a 24/7, D/s setting. For those that are in such a relationship or were i have a fewqueries. How did you end up in such a situation? Did you fantasizeabout it first? How does it compare with the fantasy? Is it part of avery personal relationship that goes beyond D/s?This next part is primarily for my fellow submissives. For those thatare not and have not been in a 24/7 relationship but fantasize aboutsuch a relationship what is it that makes you dream of such arelationship? What parts of the fantasy are most powerful? Do thefantasies revolve around letting go of all power over your life? Doesit involve personal service? Does it involve primarily the physicalaspects of D/s? Does the fantasy involve the partner of you dreamswhich fulfills are of your relationship needs, in other words is itwhat would be considered a relatively normal relationship by non-D/stypes other than the power exchange and what others would considerperverse?I am honestly curious. I for one was involved i a very powerfulrelationship with dominant Woman while i lived in Massachusetts. Ihoped it would become permanent with us together as a couple doingthings as a couple - movies, dinner, the theatre and so on. It was arelationship in which i would do whatever She asked. We were giving ofourselves to one another. We also helped one another learn aboutourselves. Because of me She returned to school and is now earning ahell of a lot more than i now do. She is also happier with Her life.I'm bummed that i'm not the man She is now married to, but i'm pleasedShe is doing well - and i will admit to pangs of jealousy. To me thisis what i idealize as a long-term D/s relationship. Would that be a24/7 relationship? Probably not to many, but to me D/s would be partof the total relationship package. Would it be slave based on my part?No, i have to strong a sense of self.
Respectfully,
bill

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"bill" wrote:
"I am curious as to how many members both Dominant and
submissive/slave live or have lived in a 24/7, D/s setting.

" For those that are in such a relationship or were i have a few
queries. How did you end up in such a situation? "

I have been searching for the right slave for over 4 years. I had
and still do have part-time submissives who serve intermittently,
but are not the type of submissive I would live with.

freeman and I are as 24/7 as two people can be who live in separate
homes. We are moving toward cohabitation, but that takes time. I
exert control through My rituals and rules that he has to govern his
behaviour when I am not around. W/we are together just about every
weekend, and he has set duties he must accomplish. He also have
daily responsibilities to Me that he carries out.


"Did you fantasize about it first? "

No fantasy does not play a big part in My life. I person call
myself a reality Domme in that I know what I want, and I know how to
get it.

How does it compare with the fantasy?

I would not know about that. The reality of it is that controlling
another person is a lot of hard work. Not much time for fantasy.
Is it part of a

"very personal relationship that goes beyond D/s?"

freeman is my submissive lifetime partner. I do have other
submissives, but they are not My partner in life. freeman is also My
only collared slave/sub. That is how I want things to be.

freeman serves Me in whatever manner I desire.

Ms Sara, Owner of freeman

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bill
My first full time 24/7 M/s realtionship was something that developed over time. The young lady I knew and cared a lot about became my room mate on a basicly vanills bases however I knew she did have a domineering personality.

Initially she found out about some of my old history as were were very open and honest with each other. From this old history of me she decided that I should start crossdressing. and aproached it by throwing out all my male underwear and replacing it with female under wear. This was the first dominant act she did when we were living together and as time went on she snarled me deep and deeper into submission to her ever whim.

maggie

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> I am curious as to how many members both Dominant and submissive/slave
> live or have lived in a 24/7, D/s setting.
>
> For those that are in such a relationship or were i have a few
> queries. How did you end up in such a situation? Did you fantasize
> about it first? How does it compare with the fantasy? Is it part of a
> very personal relationship that goes beyond D/s?

Yes, I live in a 24/7 relationship with what I call my slave, and the
relationship (I call it ownership) still exists. I never fantasized about M/s, so I
have no comparison between fantasy and reality. It is NOT part of a very
personal relationship that goes beyond Ds/Ms. It is simply M/s and nothing else.
MsHenrietta

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bill,

I am living in a 24/7 M/s (D/s) situation right now. Most people seem to think that this means play, play, play as in BDSM activities. That is not a reality lifestyle at all. Great fantasy but THAT kind of 24/7 is impossible.

BUT it can be lived 24/7 without micromanagement in that rules and tasks can be set down that must be followed or done when I am not around (at work). I have rules that he is to do things a certain way for me during the week. Laundry, Ironing, cleaning, cooking and so on. things that make my house run smoothly.

How did I end up in this situation? After being not miserable but not happy in a vanilla relationship and surviving divorce I made the decision that I would never get involved in a "vanilla" relationship again. that left either haveing subs part time or having a slave/sub full time as in 24/7. I was not interested in having one part time so I made the decision to have one 24/7. In my case I had already chosen one and we had gone through endless discussions and "negociations" if you will about what I expected and what he needed.

Did I fantasise about it? Not much as my life was too full and busy to do much of that.

Is it better than the fantasy? YES it is.

Personal relationship? I am not sure I understand what you are asking. Is our relationship personal? I own him 24/7. I am not sure how much more personal you can get. He lives in my home 24/7. I have him in my bed when I want hiim there. If you mean do we have penitrative sex? No. And that will never happen due to my beliefs about how I am with a submissive or slave in that I do not ever nor have never had penitrative sex with a submissive or slave. They all know this from the start. This is just MY rule and I don't think anything less of the Dommes who have that kind of sex with their property.

Dama (owner of into{MN} and lilone)

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